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Nigel Buxton Update
| What? There is a lot of interference! |
February 2006 |
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Dear Nigel,
How many pieces of information you receive every
second?
2 billion. Yes, 2 billion pieces of information enter your
system through your five senses (vision, hearing,
smell, taste and touch) every second you are awake.
What do we do with all that data? To stop us going
crazy we have some data management programmes.
The three principal functions of the "data
management system":
- Delete: some information just does not get
retained at all.
You are watching television with someone who
suddenly says, "Did you see that?": and you didn't –
you were looking at the tv but you just didn't see it.
Do you put your keys down and not remember where
they are? – Deleted!
The mind deletes huge amounts of data just to keep
us sane. You know the feeling of information
overload; that is when you try to override the safety
mechanism!
-Distort: with the information coming in at 2
billion pieces per second, when something arrives
that is not clearly defined - the mind has to act
quick – what is it? – what is the closest match we
have?
Now, if you have a fear, the mind will go first to
check out if the unknown matches with anything on
the fear-list. This explains why so many ghosts are
seen on dark foggy nights!
On the other hand, an optimistic person will see what
he would like to see. He is the guy who is always
telling you he saw Tom Cruise or Monica Bellucci
walking down the street.
-Generalizations: the mind tries to put things
into the boxes/folders that it already has open.
As you get older, if you are not careful, the mind will
become more and more reluctant to open up new
files. To make use of files already open you put
information into more general files. You start saying
to yourself , "Yes, that is what he said" because that
is what you would have expected him to say.
You push information into boxes where you think it
should go by generalizing, because it SHOULD go
there. You constantly seek evidence to support your
beliefs – because beliefs create the framework of "MY
LIFE" – you do not want anything to come along and
disrupt your model of how you see the world.
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Evidence wanted to support my belief
If you have a boss who is always horribly aggressive
at the monthly sales meetings where you always feel
nervous and under attack: then one day he is not
just normal, but actually nice and supportive. Your
mind will freak out and look for hidden agenda's, what
is behind this new behavour, what is he trying to get
you to do, and so on until you have created the
situation that you are just as nervous as you always
are at the meetings and you are convinced that he is
just as dangerous as he always was!
All because you have created the belief of how he is,
so that is how he must be , or your model of him
collapses and that means part of your world is being
questioned.
To make life all the more interesting - we all do
this deleting, distorting and generalizing, but we all
do it differently – in different ways and to different
information.
For example, let me tell you about a new kind of
winter shoes which are electric - you plug them in for
five minutes before you go out and they heat up.
You will probably say that you have never seen
them.
But when I tell you that they are easily
recognized because they have a red socket on the
back.
You will find that you start seeing them
everywhere – maybe not the shoes in this example,
but you get the idea!
As you walk down the street you may be aware of a
car passing, you may "see" the car, but when asked
you only recall the colour and no more detail.
However, if you know what the new Porsche
Cayman looks like, then you will recognize it and SEE
it everywhere.
You have created a package with
a label. Without the label and it is just a car maybe
with a colour and some minor detail.
So with all
things. It is said if you don't know the name, you
don't see it.
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SO AFTER A ONE HOUR MEETING WHAT
INFORMATION DO TEN PEOPLE SHARE AND AGREE
UPON?
After receiving 7,200 billion pieces of
information about the room, the temperature,
colours, smell, furniture, and all; information about
the other nine people, what they are wearing, their
perfumes, what they are doing, and all; and of
course, the speaker is especially interesting – his
clothes, hair, voice, gestures, and all.
All ten are
sitting there receiving 2 billion pieces of information
every second- each one doing his own deleting,
distorting and generalizing!
Wouldn't it be a miracle if we all come away from
a
meeting with some common information, which was
interpreted in the same way?!
Somehow we do manage to get some information
across to the other. And sometimes we do manage to
convince someone of something or to do something.
What information do you give priority to when you
are being addressed?
Do you have an effective way to comunicate with
the world so that the pieces of information you want
to comunicate are not deleted, not distorted and not
generalized by your listener?
How do you make sure you are heard and
understood?
Nigel coaches people like you to freedom – freedom
from limitations, freedom to do/be more, financial
freedom, emotional freedom, freedom to be yourself.
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Kind regards,
nigel
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